When we were kids our parents had to agonize over when they should have the “big talk” with us about the birds and the bees, sex, drugs and all that stuff. Sometimes as kids we already knew that stuff but our parents didn’t know about it at the time. Parents are sometimes in the dark about a lot of things. But when it comes to your parents will, trust, living will or advanced medical care directive you can’t risk anyone being in the dark. This is a talk you have to have.
Elder law attorney Martha Patterson outlines some key questions and answers about who should know about key legal documents and when they should be discussed.
Children should be talking to their parents as they get older and take on more responsibilities, says Martha Patterson. And children should definitely be talking to their parents when they notice declining health in their parents. To prevent family fights, all the children should get together and talk together in front of their parents. Make it a true family discussion so everyone understands the plan. Yes, have notes.
I recall a family discussion when a relative who was just diagnosed with dementia — but was not incapacitated — was asked to sign an agreement and acknowledgement about the plan he and his family agreed to about his future care.
Elder law attorney Martha Patterson offers a free consultation and $500 off any paid services when you contact her at her website www.ElderLawMom.com and this is something you shouldn’t put off.